Last Sunday I went out alone for the first time in my life. I am someone who hates doing stuff alone, but this time I had to. All the people I knew didn't wanna go out coz they are working on Monday. Losers :).
On the other hand, I learnt from life and experience that if you want to grow you have do the things on your own. Your friends will always try to drag you back, because they can see that you are growing and are kind of jealous of that. I've been there many times and once you leave them behind and make a move, they will come back to you and ask heiiii, how did you do it man? Very typical :).
Anyways, back to going out alone adventure. There are goods and bads as usual.
The only bad side that I found was the fact that you are alone. You don't have anyone to talk to. If you don't feel comfortable then it is very visible.
However, I saw many positive things here. I noticed that when you are alone, girls somehow pay more attention to you. Not sure exactly why, but I think that they find it somehow attractive that a guy has the ball to go out alone and enjoy the night. It can be very unattractive if you are closed and not having fun, so avoid it. Also, just like us men when we see a girl alone, we usually try to go and talk to her coz she is alone. It is kind of easier, so I think girls think the same way here. THey are like ooooo we have a target there :D:D.
The most positive thing for me is the amount of pressure you have on yourself. I am someone who does his best when I have enough pressure on myself and gotta tell you that going out alone is definitely something that generates it. By that I mean the fact that you are standing there alone with no one to talk to, you keep on telling yourself COME ON MAAAAAN, you gotta do something. You are kind of forced to socialize and make a move.
When you are out with your friends, it is totally different. You find all kind of excuses not to make a move, but when you are alone you are ALONE maaaaaan. You gotta move your fucking balls coz NO BODY else will move them for you. Either do something or go fucking home. Simple.
That being said, I am definitely going to increase the amount of times am going out on my own. Like I said, I need pressure and that works for me so well. Moreover, I think this is one the most important things that a lot of trainers say: Work the room. Work the room. Work the room.
I couldn't really understand what they mean until I went out alone. You really gotta talk to everyone and socialize. Its not just about women, you have to go out there to meet new people and have fun. By meeting new people, you will definitely meet women as well.
I will tell you about my adventure in the next post.
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